I wonder how many of you have had this experience. You tell your friends and family you've just published a book. After an obligatory "oh congratulations!" they go on to tell you how they've always wanted to publish a book of their own and then proceed to explain in excruciating detail about their book's subject matter, completing ignoring the news you just shared with them regarding[i] your[/i] accomplishment. Yeah so my advice to anyone out there who has published a book and expecting others to fall at your feet in admiration...you might want to look elsewhere for all those accolades...because more often than not, we have to congratulate and encourage ourselves - ain't nobody else gonna do it for us!
Oh that's a well-documented phenomena. Everyone thinks they've got a book in them. I swear, if I have to listen once more to the details of the book one of my work colleagues is going to write, and how funny it will be, and how true, and how it'll change the world and what a great film it'll make, I may just scream
I haven't had that reaction yet. Other members of my family aspired to be writers, but I'm the only one who ever finished a book Since They gave up on thinking about it decades before I did this, I haven't had to listen to them talk about what they wanted to do, especially since they were infinitely more qualified than I to do it. On the other hand, my mother keeps after me to get an agent, etc. I keep "doing the math" for her and it finally appears to be sinking in.
But I get much more enthisiastic responses from people I've never met.
My colleagues were very different, they hosted a 'book launch' at work for me! It was quite nice actually, I read bits of it and then we drank champagne I should say that I work for a PR company so the bosses are always encouraging us to branch out into anything creative
Yep. And now I'm going through that whole "I-wonder-if-he-wrote-that-about-me" and "Does-he-really-believe-that-or-did-he-just-make-it-up?" thing from friends and family. All's fair in love and writing.
My God, I feel like I started this thread! You hit the nail on the coffin. I've been experiencing all these things ever since I started telling people I wrote a book, but it really got out of hand this week when I re-released it on Wednesday. It was a really big deal at work and everyone was congratulating me, but I'm starting to think a lot of them didn't mean it, and then just yesterday another co-worker was telling me about the book they plan on writing, and another coworker has been asking me to write their "fictional" life story for them for months now. But I'm really glad to hear that it's not just me!
Well first, congratulations and much success to all of you who wrote and published your book. Even if I've not read them, I definitely understand and relate to the work involved, so everyone is well deserving of the praise for getting it out there.
I'm on the other side of the fence. I didn't tell anyone but a couple of close friends I wrote it, none of my family has a clue. My fear is that this or any future one, especially the erotiporn one (avoiding other thread...) will unwittingly go viral like 50 Shades and then they'll all find out the hard way I wasn't writing nice books
The up side is if this one doesn't do anything, I got 500 more in the mental shelf now fully throbbing out of my eyeballs trying to be the next one I sit down and actually finish!
Just be glad you didn't publish under the old model. Nothing more depressing than a book signing at Barnes and Noble in some mid-American city, with a giant pyramid of your unsold books, and of the seven people who show up, three only want to tell you about their book ideas.
I've been lucky, because none of my friends do that.
On the other hand, one of my 2nd cousins just twigged onto the fact I write, and wanted to know if my books were on Kindle. I'm thinking I shouldn't have given her my author's page link as that branch of the family seems to have gone 'born again', and I'm seeing a prayer circle for my soul looming in my future. :P